Children often have a difficult time motivating themselves to spend time studying, complete homework, or work on long term project. As a parent watching your child exhibit a lack of motivation can be exasperating. Empowering Parents reminds parents that children are not unmotivated just to make you mad or even because they don’t care. There are usually underlying issues and some students simply aren’t developed enough yet to motivate themselves. Keeping these things in mind here are four things you can do to motivate your child.
It can be tempting to yell, nag, and constantly remind your child of the negative consequences of laziness when you feel frustrated. This kind of interaction may cause your child to shut you out or react to you negatively. Instead, offer words of encouragement.
• “I noticed when you got your homework done right after school.”
• “You seem to be frustrated, can I help?”
• “You are smart, you can …”
• “I appreciate the way you try.”
Phrases such as these will encourage your child and help them feel like you are cheering for them rather
than annoyed by them.
2) Offer Rewards
Empowering Parents points out the some students have just not developed the ability to put work first and fun things second. You can help your student with this concept by rewarding them when they finish school work. Find what they enjoy such as screen time, time with friends or going out to eat and offer those things only after your child has finished their school work.
3) Be Present
Stay close while your child is studying or working on school work. Then they can ask you questions and you can notice when they begin to loose focus. Don’t do their work for them, but gently help them stay on task. When your child completes their homework go over it with them. Then you know that your child understood the concepts.
4) Offer Organizational Skills
Help your child go over their calendar everyday so he knows what to work on. Help them understand how much time they have before a big exam and plot out a schedule for studying. If your child is overbooked, help him prioritize. You may need to insist that they cut out a sport, club or other activity until they can improve their grades. These four simple things will help your child stay on task and feel motivated to do their best. Inspiring work with rewards and being present, as well as positive will help your child be successful.